How important is it really to coordinate “relief” for caregivers, or to seek something commonly called Respite Care by the Home Care industry? In simple terms, it is one of the most important components of assuring that a loved one receives quality care, especially if the care is on-going in nature. We all believe we can climb mountains when our heart is in the right place, and we sincerely believe that love and sense of duty will carry us and give us the strength to be there for a loved one in need. The reality is that as hours turn into days and weeks and even months, the well-meaning caregiver finds that energy is drained, mental focus becomes more clouded, and enthusiasm diminishes. When this happens, the quality of care becomes less sure, and tensions build for the caregiver and the family. The solution is a compromise: carefully selecting a professional caregiver from an agency that is licensed and insured, and establishing a schedule that allows a family member to still participate in the care, but also for periods of rest and rejuvenation in between caregiving duties. The fresh approach of a professional caregiver will provide some stimulation to the recipient of care, and will create a sense of anticipation and well being to all involved. The best scenario allows for the professional caregiver to handle the “chores” in the routine so that the family member can visit and enjoy quality time with the loved one.Resentment that results from being tired and neglectful of personal duties and recreational activities soon converts to appreciation for a more balanced life while participating in a positive way to the care of the family member. Balance…. the solution to being there in a positive way with a healthy outlook and depending upon a professional caregiver for much needed support care.
I was the primary caregiver for my mother. It wasn’t to big of a job early on, but then she required more and more care. It got to a point where I “lost” myself and personality. When I reached that point, I don’t think I was doing her favor because I was crabby and wanted to live my own life. I hired Golden Heart to help and now I’ve got a piece of my own life back and my mother seems to like and respect the caregivers. Thanks for your help. I needed this!
Thanks so much for your comment, Kevin. Your experience with your mother is more common than you might think. Feel good about the fact that you recognized that you needed to make arrangements for appropriate care for your mother, and at the same time, take care of yourself. Now when you visit with your mom, you can be her “son” again, and not the person she is dependent upon for all of her everyday needs. Keep us posted on how things are going and always remember, that Golden Heart Senior Care is here for your mother AND for you!